I haven’t really been the most social of online gamers. For a long time, I tended to play games with my headset off and other players muted. The reasons are numerous for playing games this way: language when the kids are around, people listening to loud music or coughing, twelve-year olds who are trying out adult insults for the first time. I really just didn’t want to deal with it.
I had been in guilds before, but I was mostly a silent member. In World of Warcraft, I’d mostly do what I was told to do during raids and just hold the line. I’m probably more antisocial than I’d like to believe… But my philosophy on conversation (and social media) is basically this: if I don’t have something funny, interesting, or useful to say, I tend to just listen. Especially in situations where I don’t know the people I’m conversing with well. (This might be a reason why I’m pretty good at being self-employed.)
But Destiny happened to me, and to ascend to the pinnacle of Destiny you need a team–you need a bunch of online friends. I have a few friends that play the game, but not enough to do what I needed.
So I went searching online. It wasn’t too long before I discovered the Dads of Destiny. I mean, it fit me pretty well. I’m a dad. I play Destiny. ‘Nuff said. But the DoD ended up becoming more than just a group of guys to shoot digital dudes with; it became part support group, part chat room, part gaming group. I’ve played with guys that had to take a short break to go change a diaper. I often hear kids running around in the background through my headphones. It’s great.
I haven’t felt like part of a real online community for a long time. Yeah, I’m obsessed with Destiny, but I think that part of that obsession comes with being able to play with the Dads. As a guy that works at home, it’s been a huge boon.